The foundation of a good relationship, romantic or otherwise, comes from understanding yourself, because relationships are really all about what’s going on within each of us. Our “inner workings” and our understanding of ourselves, has so much to do with the Chi, or life force energy, that we emanate. That’s where Feng Shui comes in. Feng Shui can definitely help heal and support relationships, by considering the flow of Chi around us and the life force energy that emanates from us.
If we take the time to work on our inner growth and understanding, while also fine-tuning our environment to bring both of these “areas” into balance, then we’ve created a solid foundation and improved our chances of finding, creating, and nurturing positive and supportive relationships in our life.
The basic goal of Feng Shui is to improve our homes and/or offices so that the Chi flows clearly and smoothly through the environment. This can help us to feel happy and healthy, and thus, enhance our lives.
With that knowledge, I encourage you to look - really look, at your home and/or office environment. Survey the space with a fresh eye and ask yourself, as you walk through your space, if there are any items that you’re holding on to that don’t have a positive impact on your mind? Are there things in your environment that remind you of something unpleasant from your past? Do you feel overwhelmed by clutter in your office or home? Clutter and Items that bring up negative memories or feelings aren’t supportive to a vibrant, healthy, and positive outlook. In that case the “outer world” situation is impacting your inner self and the Chi that emanates from you.
As you survey your space at home and work, look specifically at your “Relationship Area.” In Westernized Feng Shui, you find your Relationship Area by walking in the front door of your home or office and looking to the far right corner - that’s your Relationship Area. If you’re looking to heal relationships or create positive ones, consider the art you have in the Relationship Area. Do you have photos or art depicting individuals, or single people alone, or does the art depict loving couples, happy families, or friends having fun? Consider the colors you have in the Relationship Area. Is there any red or pink there? If not, add those colors by placing something positive there, perhaps a weekly bouquet of flowers! If your goal is to heal a relationship or you’re single but in search of a romantic partner, I suggest you also examine your bedroom. If your bedroom is light and inviting, it says that you’re welcome to a relationship. If it’s dark and closed off, that’s not welcoming to romantic energy that may be trying to enter your life.
When you’re considering adding enhancements to the Relationship Area to improve the flow of Chi, it’s best to think about what represents love and happy relationships to you. Your personal connection to an item that you feel represents love and happiness is one of the strongest enhancements you can place in the Relationship Area.
One of the more memorable consults that I recall is when a client requested a review of their home for this very topic. When we got to the Relationship Area of his home, I suggested some of the ideas that I’m now suggesting to you. He went into another room for a bit, and returned with a picture of the Eiffel Tower and a big smile on his face! When I asked why he chose that photo, his response was: “Paris, it’s the city of love!” Within a short time after our appointment, I ran into him and he told me that he had found ‘the one’. Actually, he had known her for some time, but never looked at her in the light of a potential partner. Not too long after that, they were married!
I am such a believer that all we need to know is already inside of us – waiting for us to become aware to these insights. Feng Shui is a tool that helps us to ‘wake up’ to this knowing, to find joy in our lives where darkness may have been shielding us from the inner light anxious to radiate out. Schedule time this month to reflect on your inner world, as well as your outer surroundings. Make a point to walk around your home and really, truly see what you are holding on to, or, if there is a noticeable need to fill a blank space. When you’re ready, the information will arrive. Always at the right time! Welcome love into your life and be prepared to accept it!